“Silent Wounds: When Love Turns into Control”
Sometimes people hurt you and simply say “sorry,” while some don’t even bother to apologize. When it is someone you love and respect, you may forgive them once or twice. But when it happens again and again, the pain grows heavier, and it is no longer easy to ignore.
Many children consider their parents as their best friends and share everything with them. But one day, the same parents may make them regret opening their hearts. For example, when a child calls out of love, and the parents respond with, “Did you call just to ask for money?”—such words can cut deeply. Countless teenagers have already carried emotional wounds from their upbringing, and sadly, many continue to suffer silently even as they grow.
Parents sometimes stop believing in their children and unknowingly make them feel unimportant. In arguments, they may throw words that leave scars. Some children try to speak out, but many lock their pain inside, where it grows heavier day by day.
Overprotection can also crush a child’s spirit. While some children have extraordinary talents, parents may force them only toward studies, refusing to see or nurture their real passions. Some parents allow their children to explore books and ideas, while others restrict them to only religious texts. Many even teach their children that watching a simple movie is a sin. But when the child eventually develops an interest, instead of explaining with love, the parents respond with anger and harshness—leaving the child feeling guilty for simply being human.
Later, as time goes on, children start searching for love in other ways and often fall into traps. Overprotected children, in particular, lose the chance to expose their talents to the world. Some lose self-confidence, the ability to speak in public, or even the courage to stand for themselves. But life does not remain within the walls of home. One day, every child must face reality, step into society, and work to earn their daily bread. At that point, parents cannot simply say, “Don’t go out, the world is dangerous.” Keeping a child locked away from the world and then expecting them to survive it alone is deeply unfair.
The saddest part is that many people fail to understand this truth—even educated parents repeat the same mistakes. They forget that children are not only their responsibility but also human beings with dreams, emotions, and a need for freedom. What hurts most is not just the restrictions, but the feeling of being unloved, unheard, and misunderstood. A child who grows up without being trusted or supported begins to question their own worth. And sometimes, the deepest wounds are not the ones people can see, but the ones a child carries forever in their heart.